Build kids Independently

At every age children are both trying to gain their own independence, and will at the same time, be somewhat to even greatly afraid of the separation such independence presents. It is important for parents and guardians to encourage the transitions to greater independence, gradually but genuinely, as the children grow. Your role is one of easing fear, showing what is possible and providing a sense of security that, no matter what your children try, you’re right there alongside them. let’s build children independence and confidence by this way!

Teach your children that it is okay to be separate. Help your children to see that it’s both acceptable and occasionally desirable to sometimes be alone, to peacefully disagree with another’s opinion, or to want personal time.

Search for opportunities to show examples of your own individual small accomplishments. An example could be something as simple as struggling to open a jar, but not giving up, and striving to get it open without any help. Draw attention to the experience by saying such words as: “Look, mommy tried really hard, didn’t give up and I did it!” Your children will then see that you try to accomplish things alone––and very often succeed.

Observe your children at play and in everyday life. Pay close attention to their likes and dislikes. Look for opportunities to talk with them about what they are doing or playing with. Spot the ways that they can improve their play by simple changes that they can make themselves. These changes can be as easy as adding a book for a toy car ramp or where to place their feet as they learn how to pedal their bikes.

Request your child’s input and advice on small tasks. Your child will learn that his or her opinion is important to you. Following through with his or her suggestions helps the child’s healthy internally nourished self-esteem to grow (rather than the ineffective externally imposed boosterism). It is then your job to encourage your child’s suggestions and to make him or her a very valuable asset to the task at hand.

Include your children in everyday household chores that involve their own stuff.It is much easier for children and for that matter, anyone to identify and want to help with things that they care about and are familiar with. Even if it sometimes means that you may have to go back and “really clean” the areas that you have asked them to be in charge of, passing on the expectations of responsibility for one’s own things is worth the extra effort.

Teach Kids to Loving Animal

Teaching kids to have compassion and empathy for their furry, feathered, and finned friends is vital for preventing cruelty to animals as well as in raising them to respect and treat those who are different from them with kindness. Here step by step for kids to loving, and caring animal,

1. Teach your kids to respect animals.

Teaching kids to respect animals is the first step in treating them humanely. Make sure they understand what is acceptable and what is inappropriate, and to understand how important animals are in our lives.

2. Adopt a pet.

Shelters and animal rescues have countless pets that are in need of a family, so why not stop by and see who is looking for a good home? The visit will cost you nothing, and could end up with a happy addition to your household.

3. Volunteer at an animal rescue.

Organizations that help homeless animals are always in need of assistance to get animals off the streets into safe living conditions. Your help can come in many forms, including a monetary donation or the gift of your time.

4. Visit a farm.

Small locally operated farms are wonderful places to see animals living in a comfortable and peaceful environment, and a good way to understand and appreciate where a lot of our food comes from.

5. Know where pets come from.

When choosing a pet, take the time to know where they were born and avoid inhumane sources like puppy mills. Ask the pet store where the animals came from, and if possible, choose a reputable breeder or someone you know and trust.

6. Help someone else adopt a pet.

Even if you don’t want a pet or already have one, you can help find homes for sheltered animals by encouraging other families and friends to adopt a pet. For more information, contact your local animal shelter.

7. Choose animal friendly companies.

Support the welfare of animals by choosing companies that treat their animals humanely. Even if an animal is used for food, it doesn’t mean they can’t be treated with dignity and respect. For more information, visit the website Cruelty Free Consumer.

Kids, Dad and Moms to do

Hi parents,

There are many activity idea we can do with our kids or toddler. They can escape from daily life pressure, good relationship and give refreshment between child and parents also. That activity can do at home or outdoor activity such as;

#outdoor activities

  • Holiday = Picnic day only requires simple food from fridge, use cute  paper plates for easy clean up, spread a blanket out right outside your house and have a picnic. With any weather condition are  no problem, move the furniture out of the way and have a picnic on the living room floor.
  • Take a picture = the best way to express family, Not only express family, take picture together make as creative as you can, and make story behind it, just make happy and cute memory about family happiness.                 
  • Local park, zoo, playground, make your kids have unforgettable family experience, just see how they express to see new animal at zoo how they discover it, capture the moment, that will be amazing! 
  • Take a walk, Here is a very easy and relaxing activity. How about taking a walk,  anywhere! that is a best idea and also can do everywhere  Around the yard, around the block, just walk chit chat and spend some time together without the noise of electronic devices such as video games, televisions, or phones.
  • Gardening, plant something, show your kids about how they growing, that will be teach your kids to love nature. 
  • Shopping together, that will help your child learn about shopping, teach your child about different products, what quality means, and how to make sense of guarantees, after-sales service and other added value items. The other way is learn about which is need and wants show and explain to your kids what she or he needs not they wants.

 #indoor activities

  • Puzzle, buying together do together and finished together, how fun to play teach your children to good puzzle making, they will be happy! don’t forget to make them choose color and picture as they like and wants, this way to attract your kids to knowing and understand what they want.
  • Baking or cooking something!Anything! kids love cooking class to, give them apron, chef cap also to make the feel like a pro little chef also build their confidence. When you stir a dough give them little dough and see their experiment with that.
  • Read a book, and at the end of the book use your imagination and create alternative endings. The other way, let your kids finished their own story to make them more creative.
  • Painting cute picture! trying painting a picture on your paper bag and show it to daddy when he gets home.
  • Family memory, just use simple ingredients and appliances to finished this idea. Use feet or hand, dip into food coloring put it on canvas, give name or tittle, frame it and taadaaa! finished! how cute your little one!
  • Scrap book together, the other memory and story about your growing children can be express as creative as you can at family scrap book. Teach your children make something creative and cut to put in on such as make it, cut it and paste!
  • Home movie theater, choose children favorite movie, decorate your living room with blanket and pillow just as comfortable as you feel good smell with aromatherapy, cold air and good lightning make the feel relax, don forget to pop their favorite marshmallow  popcorn and lemonade or a can of soda.


Single Parenting Life

Thing’s about single parent that you will know and understand

1. You have to come first

Now some people work this out while still in a partnership, but for me it was something I worked out for myself after becoming single. You head the family. Your moods, health, energy, emotions, everything sets the tone for the home. So put energy into looking after yourself. Eat right, exercise, get sleep, seek out support, and model the life you want your children to lead. Being selfish can be the least selfish thing you ever do.

2. You will need other people to help you

I can proudly say I‘ve set up several sets of bunks completely alone, but a leather sofa and armchair sat in a trailer in my driveway for three days while I waited to get over the fact I needed help! I spend as much time as I can with other people – dads with kids, mums with kids, ‘together’ families, and then adults around my age who don’t have children. All of them help, and create a community that enriches my life, and the life of my children. And many of them offer help in areas I struggle with – like lugging sofas inside.

3. Ignore other people’s judgments

Some people still have set ideas on what a single parent is. Some people automatically assume, if you are a single parent you’re on a benefit. Or you weren’t a good enough partner. Or you are a quitter, or you have ‘issues’. We all have different reasons for our single parent status.

4. Routines rock

I never started loving routines more than after I became a single parent. Then they became my sanity saver and I toughened up. Children started to have consistent bedtimes, were expected to sleep in their own beds, and we had more family mealtimes. It not only helped us all de-stress, but helps now life is busier, and my children have nannies, as the routines remain our constant.

5. The more independent the better

The book Little Women changed my life. The mother comes home after a long day at work, and her four girls rush around her, making sure she is fed, cared for and the jobs around the house are done. We are a real team within the household – everyone has jobs and is expected to contribute. The best thing is it’s created confident children who can make their own breakfast, get ready for school and make me a cup of tea in the mornings!


Discipline your kids

Children come into this world helpless and unable to thrive without us. Our job is to love and nurture them and to teach them how to live.

Discipline means “to teach and train”. We need to be good disciplinarians, to acquire skills that will accomplish the goal we set for ourselves – that of helping the child learn to control and set standards for himself.

There are several ways we can “make” children behave. One is by using force. Another is by using fear. Still another is by punishment. Unfortunately, these three methods imply that the caregiver is superior and should overpower the child. Rather than leading to a child with inner control, they make the child angry, resentful, fearful and dependent upon force.

There is another way to discipline children. Though it may not appear to get the immediate results we might like, it is safer, more natural and humanistic. It is based on the assumption that children are by nature good, fair, and honest and ultimately capable of responding to that which is good, fair and honest within us. This method is to treat the child with respect. It is treating the child as if he is as important a human being as you are. It is treating him with the same respect with which you wish for him to treat others, you, and himself.

  • Don’t Take It Out On Your Kids is an effort to show how we can parent and teach effectively without using force, fear, and/or punishment, but rather by treating the child with respect. By offering parents and teachers proven ways to reinforce good behavior and minimize misbehavior it is hoped that the vicious cycle of child abuse and neglect will be broken.

  • When punishment is the centerpiece of discipline, parents tend to overlook their children’s best behaviors. “You’ll get a lot further with positive reinforcement than negative reinforcement,” says Mason Turner, MD, chief of psychiatry at Kaiser Permanente San Francisco Medical Center. Rewarding good deeds targets behaviors you want to develop in your child, not things he shouldn’t be doing.

  • If your rules are vague, or discussed only when one has been broken, your child will have a hard time following them. “It’s up to the parent to make clear what’s expected of the child and what isn’t,” says Brody, who chairs the Media Committee of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. Be sure to explain the rules of the house when you can speak clearly and your child is not too upset to listen.

Guidline for leaving kids home alone

How do you know if your child is ready to stay home alone?

Age is a factor for sure.  I don’t think that any 5 year old (“mature for their age” or not) would be okay to be left alone.   But age isn’t the only thing to consider.  Every child is so different.  One of my kids will never be able to stay home alone and yet another who is young is the most responsible of the three.
Here are some other things to consider –


  • How long will you be gone for?
  • Does your child follow directions?  Will they go by the rules while you are away?
  • Are there other kids left home too?  How many and how old?
  • How safe is your neighborhood?
  • Would your child feel safe staying alone?

Information to go over with your child before they stay home alone:

  • The basic rules.
    What they can and cannot do.  Be specific so there is nothing left unsaid.
  • How to lock/unlock the doors and windows.
    Do a test run of this to make sure they know how to use all of the locks.  Talk about safety and the importance of not answering the phone and door unless it is you.
  • Emergency Information.
    Give clear information about what they should do if something happen in  a house such as emergency call.
  • Rules about the neighborhood and friends.
    Can he or she go outside at all?  More important spell-it-all-out topic.
  • Kitchen rules.
    As a general rule, young kids shouldn’t be turning on the oven or stove without adult supervision.  But as they get older, they should be able to be in the kitchen.

  • Let him/her ask any questions or address concerns.

You don’t want to give them too much information to scare them, but you do need to have an open conversation to make sure they are comfortable to be left alone.  This goes back to – is he or she ready?  Some kids at 10 years old are begging to stay home, others never ever want to be left alone.

Rainy day with kids

Rainy days are the one thing parents do not need during the holidays, but they happen.  We have great ideas for free or low cost rainy day activities when the kids must play indoors.

Create your own Board Games


Board games are a great way to while away a few hours, but if your children are tired of the games you have at home, why not get them to make their own. Give them a large sheet of poster card, some felt pens, old magazines, scissors and glue, and let them go to it. They’ll need to create their own rules, cards, counters and dice, and trust me – you’ll be amazed by what they come up with. The whole family can take turns playing each other’s games.

Oh So Beautiful

Rummage through your makeup drawer to find some bits and pieces you’re happy to let go, and then set up a beauty salon for your children. You can be the stylist, or let them take turns putting on make-up, nail polish, and doing each other’s hair. Before you know it they will have created a whole game complete with a receptionist and a diary for bookings.

Out and About

There are plenty of places you can visit on a rainy day, and most are advertised in the newspaper leading up to the holiday break. Rainy days are a good chance to check out Indoor Playgrounds, Ten Pin Bowling Alleys, Hot Pools, Museums, and of course – the movies!

Make a Hut

Children of all ages love making huts, and the older they get, the more elaborate they become. Pull out sheets and blankets from the linen cupboard, and let them use the kitchen table, lounge furniture or a clothes horse as a base. Once the hut is made, they can spend time inside playing games, reading, or just hanging out.

What a puzzle?!

Find-a-words, crosswords, word jumbles, mazes, connect-the-dots – they’re all things that keep kids entertained, so it doesn’t hurt to have a few puzzle books on hand for a rainy day. Better still, have your child create their own puzzle book by downloading puzzle sheets off the internet, or cutting out puzzles from magazines. If they’re feeling really inspired, they could create their own puzzles for the rest of the family to solve.

Spring Clean

Rainy days are a great time to get stuck in and clean out the kids bedrooms. I know it doesn’t sound like much fun, but it has to be done, so you might as well enjoy it. Tempt the kids to get involved by letting them decide what happens to the stuff they no longer want. Maybe you could have a garage sale or list the items on an auction site to make a few dollars. They may also choose to donate some items to charity.

Should a Preschooler Know About Technology?

Using and Choosing Techology for Preschoolers:

  • Don’t try to formally “teach” technology skills and competencies. Instead, set the stage for successful experimentation by providing the materials, introducing them, and offering support.
  • Let children practice using technology by pretending with the types of gadgets they see their parents using, such as a smart phone, iPad, or laptop.
  • Use a wireless laptop so that you can bring a Web-based experience to children, in the context of their play.
  • Keep a digital camera at the ready to capture and document children’s work.
  • Set the stage for social, active learning.
  • Encourage children to represent what they do using digital cameras.
  • Introduce new technology during circle time, prior to placing it in a learning center.
  • Expand on your children’s interests by letting them come up with search words and see the results in ways they can understand (e.g., as a set of images rather than text alone).

Technology Standards: What Should Children Know:

By the time children enter kindergarten, they should be able to navigate computers and iPads alike, launching applications, and negotiating menus. Why? Because many of their classmates will have these skills, which are required for basic computer and iPad usage. The following observable behaviors are typical of such mastery, but keep in mind that this is a suggested list designed to obtain a measure of a child’s knowledge. In addition, technology is continually evolving, so it is important that you use this list as a flexible guideline only.

A child entering kindergarten may:

  • Use fine motor skills to use the mouse to move a cursor to a target on the screen.
  • Show awareness of the “power keys” on a keyboard (e.g., “enter,” “esc,” “delete,” and the space bar).

  • Know the difference between the left and right mouse button (which can be helped by a small label or sticker).
  • Be familiar with at least five quality interactive applications, games or activities.
  • Have a basic working vocabulary of common technology terms, such as “digital camera,” “iPad,” “computer,” “Internet,” “mouse,” “keyboard,” and “printer.”
  • Have been exposed to common technology terms in the natural context of everyday conversation, such as “on/off,” “Internet,” “browser,” “software,” “hardware,” “computer,” “mouse,” “monitor,” “keyboard,” “digital camera,” “printer,” “battery,” and so on.
  • Have taken their first digital photo.

  • Find the numerals on a QWERTY keyboard.
  • Type their first name on a QWERTY keyboard.
  • Understand the basic functions of a browser, including how to open or close windows and use the “back” key.

Teenager Craft Activity Ideas

Teenagers need occupying in the holidays too.  We have some craft activities ideas for them.

By the time your child is a teenager, you will know whether arts and crafts is something they are interested in. If it is, they will already have lots of skills, and may have a favourite craft that they do on a regular basis. These craft ideas are projects that can easily be adapted to suit your teenagers style, and they are all cool enough for an adolescent stamp of approval.

Cell Phone Charm

Most teenagers have cell phones these days, and having a charm hanging from the bottom is the latest trend. The materials are all available from good craft or jewellery making stores, and you should be able to make a complete phone charm for less than $5.

You will need:

  • A length of tiger tail wire, twice as long as you would like your charm.
  • 3 crimp beads
  • A selection of beads or charms
  • Flat nosed pliers

To make:

  1. Thread the tiger tail wire through the latch at the bottom of your phone, and pull it through so that the two ends are equal.
  2. Slide a crimp bead over both ends of the wire, and pull it up towards the latch as far as you can go. Use your flat nose pliers to crimp the bead into place.
  3. Thread beads and charms onto one side of the wire, and finish with a crimp bead. Flatten the crimp to hold all the other beads in place.
  4. Repeat step 3 with the other piece of wire, and you are done.

Ribbon and Bead Bookmark

This bookmark makes a really nice gift, and can be made to look quite different depending on the beads and ribbon you choose. There are all sorts of ribbons available with teenage themed words, pictures and symbols, and all the materials are available from good craft shops or jewellery supply stores.

You will need:

  • 2 x Cone End Caps (Jewellery Findings)
  • 1m Tiger Tail Wire
  • Wire Cutters
  • Flat Nose Pliers
  • Small packet of Crimp Beads
  • Selection of Beads
  • 30cm ribbon

To make:

  1. Cut off approximately 10cm of tiger tail wire and fold it around one end of your ribbon, to make a loop.
  2. Thread both tails of the wire through a crimp, and slide the crimp up as far as you can to secure the loop around the ribbon. Press the crimp flat using your flat nosed pliers.
  3. Repeat Steps 3 and 4 with two more pieces of wire.
  4. Thread all your wire tails through the cone end cap, and pull it hard to hold it in place. Slide a crimp over 2 tails of wire at a time, and press the crimps flat right at the base of the cone. This will form the tassel.
  5. Thread your beads onto the wire strands, and finish with a crimp to hold them in place.
  6. Repeat Steps 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5 at the other end of your ribbon, and your bookmark is complete.

Quick and Easy Ideas

  • Decorate a plain cork notice board to make a great message centre for school notices, photographs, certificates and notes.

  • Glue photographs and embellishments onto old CDs. Drill a hole in the top of each one, and loop them together with a ribbon or metal ring to make a truly unique photo album.
  • Mosaic over rocks or old gumboots to make great looking garden art.

  • Have your favourite photographs printed onto material, then stitch them together to make a pillow, quilt, or bag. Most copy centres can copy photographs onto canvas while you wait.
  • Make a great mobile by stringing together a whole heap of old CD’s. It looks particularly good hanging in the sun.

Parenting Tips for Teaching Respect

Children will take their cues from you. Simply put, if children are around respectful adults, they’re more likely to show respect, however, when they’re around disrespectful adults, they’re more likely to show disrespectful behavior. We can teach our kids this critical value — and in doing so, we’ll end up imparting crucial lessons in kindness, consideration, honesty, open-mindedness, and gratitude as well. there are plenty of simple strategies you can use.


When your expectations are reasonably high, children rise to the occasion.


When you see or hear your children using respectful language and making respectful choices, recognize it and praise them for making positive, respectful decisions.


Pick out times when you see other children using respectful or disrespectful language or behavior and discuss with it your children.


Be strong, firm and direct when teaching respect. At the same time, be sure you are being respectful yourself while correcting the behavior.


Don’t just let things slide! Be sure to notice when respectful behavior is being exhibited and make sure to call them on disrespectful behavior!


Your children are growing and learning. Sometimes word choice and behavioral decisions are made because they do not have the correct words or behavior to relay “I’m tired,” “I’m frustrated,” or “I’m angry.”

Reinforce it

Remind children of their good decisions so that they remember how it felt, the praise they received, and the overall experience of being respectful.


Respectful behavior should be something that children want to do without overindulgent rewards. However, it is good to associate respectful behavior with intangible rewards such as praise, recognition, extra responsibility, and privileges.

Teach Listening Skills

The first step toward being a good listener: removing distractions and making eye contact. So teach your child to put down the Wii control and focus on you when you’re talking (by the same token, make sure you look up from your iPhone when your kid has something to say too).

Encourage Open-mindedness

Treating others with respect means taking the time to get to know them and trying to see where they’re coming from — even when you don’t immediately hit it off.